Anger can take a lot of different forms, but it is a common emotion that most people have.
Irritability is similar but different to anger. It is also a common emotion. The very term ‘irritability’, implies that there is no justification for the reaction. It suggests that a person is being snappy and bad-tempered when there is no call to be so.
As such, it fails the ‘Justified?’ test; people are almost always criticised for being irritable. Again, we may be our harshest critics in this respect.
It is important to know the sorts of things, which make you angry.
There are three categories of event that make people angry:
There are plenty of irritants:
Likewise, there are plenty of things people do that have a cost for us:
The important thing is, you, like everyone, else will have a set of rules that you expect other people to abide by. When someone breaks one of those rules, it is known as a transgression. When you spot a transgression, or think you have, the chances are you will be angry.
Some things which make us angry straddle the boundaries between these categories. For example, a child breaking something may make us angry because of the cost involved in replacing it, but also because they have not, in our view taken enough care.
It’s possible to learn about your anger and how your actions to it come about. It is well worth doing this because you can then analyse your own actions, and those of others.
Armed with this awareness you can then intervene to lessen the anger you experience. Moreover, we can also alter the responses we produce. It is those responses that people refer to as our ‘irritability’ or ‘anger’.
Digging deep into your anger means beginning to understand your:
Getting some assistance will help you feel calmer, more relaxed and joyful. Let’s discover how I can help.
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